Relationships........

I don't only write about relationships. I love writing relationship issues because apart from being in tune with God, and achieving our goals, relationships stare at us in the face wherever we find ourselves.

It's easy blaming the other person all the time when we have not found time to think about how we treat them. One thing we have to bear in mind is to learn how to treat other people and how we would want to be treated if we were in their shoes.

Next time you think your friend, sibling, parent or partner is nagging- do me this favour- they only talk about those issues ,because you refused to work on those "things "you promised you would change.

When you are silent, they say you are indifferent to the relationship, and when you want to discuss your issues, they say you nag too much.

Relationships are hard work, this is something no one would ever teach you. Experience it and you will realise how different we all are. What matters to me wouldn't necessaily matter to you, but if it does i will change to meet you half way through, if it matters to me please changeto meet me half way through.

Life is Toooo Short!!!

Hmmm ok we all thought it was a stupid prank someone was playing on the 1st of April, 2010. I called your phone and it was off, then i tried again, it rang but there was no answer.
I got to the office and heard the news and went numb. You were a friend to me, we laughed, we teased each other and just talked about everything and nothing.

Sometimes people we care about are taken away too quickly from us. Maybe I should have called you when I intended to, but I guess it wouldn't have made any difference. God knows best and He understands the deep things in life.

I pray for strength for your family, your wife and daughter. It feels so surreal but we will live through it. Rest in peace my dear friend, I will miss the Swahili lessons, the karaoke lessons which never came on and the fact that I knew that you were always there.

I will find solace in the fact that you were an achiever. God be with you till we meet again.

Saving Relationships?

The most important part of knowing how to save a relationship is knowing when to start looking for problems. No relationship is completely perfect. It may be perfect in the beginning, but after you both get comfortable with each other, the “cracks” start to appear.

It’s little things at first. Maybe he doesn’t like the way you put the toilet paper on the roll or maybe you don’t like that he never puts it on the roll to begin with. When you’re done with all the newness of a relationship, then your personal preferences start to shine through. You never really cared about it before because you were dealing with the flood of emotions that love brings with it.

As you settle in to this new love and things get more comfortable, then you start to notice when he plays with one of your pet peeves.
It’s not that he wasn’t doing them all along; it’s just that now you are really noticing them. Guess what, sister… he’s starting to see everything that you do that he doesn’t like. Having your eyes and communication open is your best defense in how to save a relationship.

Good relationships are not accidents..........

I have often asked myself, why we love and how we choose to love . Seriously I think its more than just a feeling, happen- stance ,or simply an emotion. It is a decision to be open and to share when you don’t feel like it. Love is a decision when you don't think the other person deserves your love.

Love is a decision means that you are open to honest communication with the other person. That's not only talking, but also listening.
Making the decision to love includes the everyday, little things that you often do for one another. From the action of deciding to love, often the feeling of love will follow.

Making the other person feel truly honored.
Learning the art of touching—tenderly.
Keeping friendship alive at all times
Re-opening a heart closed by anger.
Building—or rebuilding—trust in a relationship.
Becoming best friends

Is your love a decision?

The 5 Love Languages

I was chatting with my sister and she wouldn't stop talking about a book she read called " The Five Love Languages". More often than not we tend to complain about what are partners aren't doing right in our relationships. I read a synopsis of the book by Gary Chapman and wasn't I amazed?

Apparently all of us speak or portray at least one of the five. Maybe you should go grab a copy of that book just like I did. The five love languages are Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time,Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts. You would be surprised at what your language is. I am not telling you mine until you tell me yours.

Stay tuned for more!!!

Something to think about.

Julius and Jean have been married for three years. Prior to the union, they vowed not to engage in sexual relations. There were a few temptations along the road, but they pulled through and stood on their grounds.He's a 32-year-old lawyer. She's a 30 -year- old Marketing Consultant. He says they never fight, and in many ways they're compatible -- but not when it comes to sex.
Two years into the marriage, they have consulted almost all the therapists in this country, but all to no avail, in reality they act like siblings.
Julius is seeing someone else and Jean is seeing a colleague in her office. Both of them are Youth Leaders in the church. What happened to marriage being a convenant and not a contract?

According to a survey conducted by CNN, money isn't the problem in marriages but the fact that people do not take a holistic approach to issues when they are dating especially sex.So will it be infidelity or sex before marriage?? Ahh well, I do not have answers to this, you do.

Food Preferences.

Apparently we can understand our partners through their food preferences. Very interesting, isn't it? I read that, this is one of the reasons why Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt divorced.

Just read on, guys who prefer pizzas are creative and independent. They like to be treated with attention, they enjoy interesting conversations or various types of sex.Guys who like porridges are liars, women should be very careful in dealing with such men, because there is always some mystery in their lives.......

Men who prefer spicy foods are independent, risk takers and have mood swings. They want you to take part in their hobbies and they desire reliable companions.These are just a few. Tell us the kind of food your man prefers and we will find out how he should be treated and what kind of person he is.
Stay tuned.