Just when I was thinking of what our next topic of discussion was going to be, I found myself asking this question, can a man and a woman just be friends? I have a number of male friends each of them inspire me in different ways. Some of them only get in touch when they need a favour , others call you once in a while to find out if you have a new boyfriend, others are there for you all the time......they are come in handy.
Truth is i love each of them in entirely different ways, for me, the love we share isn't about dating, or who to jump into bed with, it's about trust, understanding,sharing of ideas and being there for each other regardless of the situation.
I have this philosophy that- the fact that two people are in love doesn't necessarily mean they should be in a relationship. The first time I said this to one of male friends he thought I had gone nuts but I still stand by this.
My question is- Can I indisputably love my male friends or a male friend and my boo at the same time?
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Araba,this is another very thoughtful piece.The reason why the subject of love and friendship becomes such baffling topics sometimes beat my imagination.The ignorant person today is not the person without a college degree,but the one who cannot learn,unlearn and relearn the core issues that drive our lives.Love is a debt each human owes to the other.In it's full sense,I believe it is more than just a feeling we share with another.L-O-V-E is a word whose essence is revealed by our demonstration of the real meaning of the word behind the letters and at such,I belive that we all can have our own way of demonstrating the meaning of love in difference forms depending on the type of relationship,whether it's our friends,family or a lover.So yes,I believe you can love your friends indisputably but one must always have boundaries where the level of prominence we give to our friends must never equal that which we give to our true soul mate.I believe that as a matter of fact,it is impossible to have the same kind of relationship with ones friends and your boo/soul mate for that matter...Cheers!Like to read some more thoughts from you.Keep it up girl.
ReplyDeleteJojo said it all, and i equally share his view. Your love for your partner should be very distinct from other male friends. Note that, it is a total relationship altogether to which you are committed in one way or the other, and moreso with a different sense of value attached. In as much as love is a virtue, its receipients welcome and appreciate it with defined level of understanding. Thus, the love you have for your partner should not be equated to that for your other male friends. What binds you two together isnt the same as that of your other male friends...
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