Looks?

Just yesterday I went to Melcom with two of my colleagues at lunch time. The traffic was crazy- a journey that usually takes 20 mins took us an hour. By the time we got there, all of us were exhausted especially my pregnant colleague.

I didn't intend to buy anything even though I had 40 cedis in my pocket and 50 cedis in my purse ,but like the typical woman that I am, I ended up buying a few things. Whilst we were still looking around, my other colleague asked me if I had dropped any money- it was 15 Cedis, then I realised that there was no money in my pocket . My 40 cedis was gone, then one of the attendants told us that she had seen some 5 cedi notes on the floor.

She said she had given the money to a girl who claimed the money was hers, now I was getting worried, 40 cedis could easily get me a new pair of shoes.

I walked up to the "girl" who was with someone I suspected to be her " boo" - and there she was counting the money. I told her the money was 25 cedis and I was right. I took it from her without any hesitation.

So question is why take the money when it is not yours? A pretty girl with her nice guy by her side ready to use my " small money" for shopping!!!!

Desperation

Now we are done with forgiving your partner after they have cheated and asked for forgiveness, you cannot certainly forgive when you do not know what they have done. So first they have to repent and then you can forgive. The choice is entirely yours, but learn to forgive that is the only way can let go of the past. Enough of that.

I understand that , a lot of women these days are extremely desperate. At age 27 if you are not married, they believe that your biological clock begins to tick faster than normal. Hmmm one of my friends turns 27 next year and she is getting worried.She has never dated in her life- a few crushes here and there but no serious relationships, no heartbreaks, absolutely nothing..........Why are more women "desperate" to settle down with " anyone" who comes their way now.To the guys, if you are not lucky you just might get "trapped" with a baby mama.

Question- Why are women desperate to settle by age 26?

Desperation

Now we are done with forgiving your partner after they have cheated and asked for forgiveness, you cannot certainly forgive when you do not know what they have done. So first they have to repent and then you can forgive. Enough of that.

I understand that a lot of women these days are extremely desperate. At age 27 if you are married, they believe that the biological clock begins to tick faster than normal. Hmmm one of my friends turns 27 next year and she is getting worried.She has never dated in her life- a few crushes here and there but no serious relationships, no heartbreaks, absolutely nothing..........

Why are more women "desperate" to settle down with " anyone" who comes their way now.

To the guys, if you are not lucky you just might get "trapped" with a baby mama.


Question- Why are women desperate to settle by age 26?

Forgiveness

We talk about grudges the way we talk about babies. You can hold a grudge, carry a grudge, bear a grudge, or nurse a grudge. The trouble is, when you nurse something you feed it, make it grow, and pretty soon it's full grown. Are you carrying a grudge? Why? It doesn't make sense. Why would you pick up something each day that weighs you down and carry it around with you? "But they hurt me." Yes, but by carrying a grudge you enable them to keep hurting you. Don't do that to yourself!We know we're supposed to forgive other people, but sometimes forgiving feels like we are giving up something. But if you are carrying a grudge, are you any different? Let go and let God, forgiving is letting go of the past,but if you can't deal with a cheating spouse please walk away.

Forgiveness

We talk about grudges the way we talk about babies. You can hold a grudge, carry a grudge, bear a grudge, or nurse a grudge. The trouble is, when you nurse something you feed it, make it grow, and pretty soon it's full grown. Are you carrying a grudge? Why? It doesn't make sense. Why would you pick up something each day that weighs you down and carry it around with you? "But they hurt me." Yes, but by carrying a grudge you enable them to keep hurting you. Don't do that to yourself!We know we're supposed to forgive other people, but sometimes forgiving feels like we are giving up something. Forgiving is letting go of the past. Let go let God,but if you can't deal with the cheating spouse just walk away.

Forgiveness

Hmmm it's been some 11 days break. It's been a refreshing one don't ask me for the details. Forgiveness is vital in every relationship no matter the sexes involved.
I think we can only forgive when the other person has repented, but if you have a partner who constantly cheats please walk away or perhaps you know why you are in it.

Truth is when your partner finds out that you cheated, chances are that they would keep reminding you of your past.

Forgive and forget,inorder to feel again. To be continued........................

How do I forgive?

Papa and Araba have in a relationship for close to 4 years. It's match made in heaven. They have been there for each other all throughout. Araba goes on a year abroad program, Papa helped to pay her fees and paid for the accommodation. She came back to find out that Papa has a baby with an older woman( Kafui). The DNA suggests that indeed Papa is the father of the child.

Papa still loves Araba and has promised he is going to marry her, regardless of the current situation. She is in a fix now because Kafui doesn't even give them breathing space. Let me spare you all the details for now...................

How do I forgive a man who has betrayed me?

Cheating and Forgiveness- I

Stay tuned for another piece on cheating and going through the process of forgiveness,I believe in one thing that it is good to forgive and forget inorder to feel again. Our next piece would be thought provoking and I hope that we all learn lessons from it. Your comments on any of the topics are still welcome. Keep your fingers crossed..........

Cheating in Relationships II

I am still waiting for your responses on cheating, I am grateful for the comments on this topic but am asking because sometimes we cheat and still claim to love our partners. The "cheaters" claim their partners pushed them to cheat. Interestingly enough, most of us or all of us have cheated on our partners before, some think cheating is only when you sleep with another person other than your partner, others say you cheat when you spend more time with the other person other than your partner-be it on the phone,hanging out etc.

So this is my question, when does cheating start,and if you love me why would you cheat on me in the first place?

Cheating in Relationships- What is it at all?

It's a new week, new expectations, new challenges and renewed strength and favour from God. It has been a tiring weekend for me, coupled with the fact that i wasn't too well and my very good friend is also very ill. Aah well i am praying for all of you for good health and strength in the coming year.

Today I want to discuss cheating in relationships. I recall having a discussion with a friend on this same topic, she said when you chat with someone more on your phone than you would with your boo it is considered cheating. So now am getting confused, when does cheating start and what is it at all?

Friendship- The Opposite Sex

Just when I was thinking of what our next topic of discussion was going to be, I found myself asking this question, can a man and a woman just be friends? I have a number of male friends each of them inspire me in different ways. Some of them only get in touch when they need a favour , others call you once in a while to find out if you have a new boyfriend, others are there for you all the time......they are come in handy.

Truth is i love each of them in entirely different ways, for me, the love we share isn't about dating, or who to jump into bed with, it's about trust, understanding,sharing of ideas and being there for each other regardless of the situation.

I have this philosophy that- the fact that two people are in love doesn't necessarily mean they should be in a relationship. The first time I said this to one of male friends he thought I had gone nuts but I still stand by this.

My question is- Can I indisputably love my male friends or a male friend and my boo at the same time?

Thank you all for the comments, am very grateful to all who read and did not comment and those who commented on this piece, i think we are all doing just fine and we will surely get there, stay tuned for the next captivating piece on Friday the 13th ! Cheers!

Most people meet their life partners in school especially in the tertiary institutions or others right from the First cycle or Second cycle institutions,others meet them when they enter the Corporate World,but what if your life partner did not get the opportunity to go all the schools you attended or better still has little or no education at all. But trust me, he is not doing badly at all- he is currently setting up his own business to make ends meet but the problem is the man never gets his expressions right, his diction is terrible and and his tenses, the least said about them , the better and yet you love him very much,you guys understand each other and get along pretty well, isn't that what a relationship is all about?
But it's your friends and family they do not understand why a woman with a 2nd Degree in Corporate Communications - (the irony) is doing with a man who has " only" a Senior Secondary School Certificate.
Seroiusly,would you typically date someone who is in a 'lower social class'than you are- in terms of education ?

Welcome to a Woman's World, where we ask all the questions and try to get answers as well, you will find this very intriguing. We will talk about Education, Finances, Health and of course relationships am sure you knew this was definitely coming up. Stay tuned!