Saving Relationships?

The most important part of knowing how to save a relationship is knowing when to start looking for problems. No relationship is completely perfect. It may be perfect in the beginning, but after you both get comfortable with each other, the “cracks” start to appear.

It’s little things at first. Maybe he doesn’t like the way you put the toilet paper on the roll or maybe you don’t like that he never puts it on the roll to begin with. When you’re done with all the newness of a relationship, then your personal preferences start to shine through. You never really cared about it before because you were dealing with the flood of emotions that love brings with it.

As you settle in to this new love and things get more comfortable, then you start to notice when he plays with one of your pet peeves.
It’s not that he wasn’t doing them all along; it’s just that now you are really noticing them. Guess what, sister… he’s starting to see everything that you do that he doesn’t like. Having your eyes and communication open is your best defense in how to save a relationship.

Good relationships are not accidents..........

I have often asked myself, why we love and how we choose to love . Seriously I think its more than just a feeling, happen- stance ,or simply an emotion. It is a decision to be open and to share when you don’t feel like it. Love is a decision when you don't think the other person deserves your love.

Love is a decision means that you are open to honest communication with the other person. That's not only talking, but also listening.
Making the decision to love includes the everyday, little things that you often do for one another. From the action of deciding to love, often the feeling of love will follow.

Making the other person feel truly honored.
Learning the art of touching—tenderly.
Keeping friendship alive at all times
Re-opening a heart closed by anger.
Building—or rebuilding—trust in a relationship.
Becoming best friends

Is your love a decision?

The 5 Love Languages

I was chatting with my sister and she wouldn't stop talking about a book she read called " The Five Love Languages". More often than not we tend to complain about what are partners aren't doing right in our relationships. I read a synopsis of the book by Gary Chapman and wasn't I amazed?

Apparently all of us speak or portray at least one of the five. Maybe you should go grab a copy of that book just like I did. The five love languages are Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time,Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts. You would be surprised at what your language is. I am not telling you mine until you tell me yours.

Stay tuned for more!!!